My kids are on the verge of becoming truly independent. As we approach the holidays I am reminded that not to long ago we were attending all those school performances. There were years when my kids just did not want to go to the performance or one was sick, and I never pushed them into going. The performance went on without them, and they would cuddle up on the couch and just relax. I hope that when they are older and have their own children they will use a page out of my parenting book. LOL
With so many school events, volunteering, and other family functions it easy to forget that the kids need some rest. When my children were little, and they needed a day off of school, I gave it to them. We called it a “mental health day”. Sometimes they would tell me “I just need a break.” Then I would ask them if they needed a “mental health day”, a day they could relax, read, or just get catered to for a day.
As much as I loved the school performances, I also didn’t want my kids to feel pressured into doing one more thing that was supposed to be fun. I get that it is a community event, and we all interact within the community. We also need a break, and these days the pressure to be a part of the community doesn’t end once we are home. We also have an online social presence.
So, as we get closer to the holidays, if I am not here, I am at work or spending time with my beloved family. I hope you all treasure every moment you can with your family too, and listen to your children…don’t over burden them with too much hustle and bustle.